Why oh Why? Part II

So, I finished reading that stupid book, and it made me wonder - what for?

Following the author's advice a girl should get a man interested without falling in love herself (that would be dangerous for the plan), train him like a circus horse with huge doses of whip and carrots (men do not react much to verbal stimuli, apparently), only to get... what?

To get a man she doesn't love or respect, even if she respected him in the beginning of the process, when she's done with him there can be no respect whatsoever. Who respects a man who's blind enough to fall for the old tricks and who kisses the hand holding the whip? Pfft...

Not to mention "little" flaws in the author's views - why should I impose watching "chick flicks" instead of sports if I hate chick flicks in the first place? Oh, well, contrary to some people's opinions I'm not a bitch material, sorry to disappoint.

Now, back to normal reading schedule... Henry Kamen "Spanish Inquisition" - much better :-)

Why oh Why?

That's a pretty good question, and probably not as simple as the author tries to sell it.
Maybe both sexes have hunter's instinct to chase whoever is trying to escape and feel mildly uneasy being chased?
One thing is certain - from mom's and grandma's teachings to Cosmo magazine - girls are conditioned to please, serve and be nice, while boys are not.
Obviously in some cultures more than in other, but even in the wildest of western societies it still happens. Add general nervousness about eventual failure (yeah, if you don't get yourself a mate, you must be some kind of a loser), mixed sygnals and contradictory messages from family, friends, opposite sex and the media and it's a disaster ready to happen. Too mellow or too agressive, to slow or too fast, too serious or too easygoing - nothing seems to be right. Unless the man is totally in love anyway, there's a million and one way to screw up. Of course, men never screw up in relationships, just like they are never fat - they just enjoy their food and don't have enough time to excercise.
So the screw up happens and it's all the girl's fault - what does the gentleman do? Turns around and either chases some true bitch or orders a mail bride from Asia. Go figure.